It’s a fair question, I suppose. It’s a fair question for those who feel that their own sexuality is somehow unimportant or is some manner disconnected from their identity. It’s a fair question for those who feel that anyone’s sexuality is an aberration or distraction from their true being. I for one don’t feel that is the case, but in this age where the mere mention of a difference between us is held up as an example of someone’s political agenda, I understand how it could seem to be a part of that and how, in order to protest the many agendas that may or may not exist, it might seem appropriate to label sexuality irrelevant and just move on.
It’s no one’s business after all, no one needs to know what you do in the bedroom, alone in the dark or with a partner, unless of course you socialize or somehow interact with other people—say at your workplace, where someone might ask you what you did over the weekend. A heterosexual woman might reply that she went to a winery with her husband. She might go on to share that he drank too much and she had to drive home. This sort of sharing is a part of normal human interaction. We use pronouns sometimes. She might not have meant to declare her sexuality, but she did—just as certainly if a man had said the same words.
Captain Kirk’s sexuality was pretty clear… [Read More]